Relationships are fillers..fillers of empty spaces within. When I say filler, I just mean it factually and not in any derogatory or frivolous sense. I don't mean just relationships between people..I mean relationships covering the whole gamut..Relationship with emotions, with pursuit of knowledge, relationship with children, relationship to a spiritual guru, relationship to one's work, to one's pet, to one's aspirations, relationship to monetary power, prestige, to one's beliefs, to one's actions etc etc. Whether articulated and comprehended or not, the "other" in the relationship is given as much status (read importance) as the empty space demands..in other words, as much importance as there is a need to fill that.
Been pondering over this for a while now..one's relationship with oneself. What makes someone think/say/do/not do a certain something. At the base of it has to be something which is the basis of a relationship with one's own needs. At the base of that is likely to be his/ her own life experiences which have led to those basic needs to get fulfilled/ satiated.
May life unfold in its own time to give answers to these wonderments..
very interesting perspective...for me, relationships dont fill a gap...they are layers/or elements which ADD a richness to myself...if with a person, it could even be a like a rainbow we both paint together and wrap around ourselves, with an emotion it could be that i plucked it from the garden of life at that point to wear it, a thought that is conceived within and given birth that i own...sometimes rainbows fade and new rainbows happen...new colours..sometimes old rainbows get re-painted together in more beautiful hues...sometimes flowers wither and stink and needto be thrown out...sometimes the fragrance is for ever...
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