Someone says something loaded in a possible attempt to rub in a gentle message in an opportunistic way..someone says something primarily taking care of their self interest first and twisting their need to sound like yours..Someone says something in an attempt to flatter as prework for enjoying some favours later. Someone calls after ages and has a long winded conversation only to insert one last point, btw.."I wanted to check something with you...." Someone says something for which I feel a temptation to respond to further it since I seem to like what I just heard...
And this from a person who essentially bases life on the formula of "Trust first, unless proved guilty "
The awareness is enjoyable..it gives me a certain sense of power at being able to choose how I wish to respond to these. Succumb spontaneously or take little more time to choose my response? Succumbing spontaneously could involve giving it back in a fitting manner ( a punitive location to feel the power from getting even) or say yes in a weak moment (and then feel a victim to manipulation) or enjoy the flattery in the moment (and feel used later) or feel touched at being remembered fondly only to feel bugged that there was a hidden agenda after all...The residual feeling that any of these would leave is nothing great..
In the moment, I have started detaching myself and observing the process as a spectator..makes me less judgmental, less reactive, more aware and choose my response so as to not let the situation / person affect me..loving it this way..
I like the sense of power I am able to exercise over myself and the situation..
And this from someone who has always been described as being gullible..
And this from a person who essentially bases life on the formula of "Trust first, unless proved guilty "
The awareness is enjoyable..it gives me a certain sense of power at being able to choose how I wish to respond to these. Succumb spontaneously or take little more time to choose my response? Succumbing spontaneously could involve giving it back in a fitting manner ( a punitive location to feel the power from getting even) or say yes in a weak moment (and then feel a victim to manipulation) or enjoy the flattery in the moment (and feel used later) or feel touched at being remembered fondly only to feel bugged that there was a hidden agenda after all...The residual feeling that any of these would leave is nothing great..
In the moment, I have started detaching myself and observing the process as a spectator..makes me less judgmental, less reactive, more aware and choose my response so as to not let the situation / person affect me..loving it this way..
I like the sense of power I am able to exercise over myself and the situation..
And this from someone who has always been described as being gullible..
:) I do call people whom I've not spoken to for a long time, coming to the point directly instead of framing a story. I tend to avoid making friends with them to whom I need to build up a Some Setup. But I still think, if a person calls someone only when in need, it could also mean he/she was considered better than the rest, at least that instant.
ReplyDeleteBut there's a lot of pleasure I derive when I can write the perefect screen play of a conversation that just begun.
A while ago my son introduced me to Greene's 48 Laws of Power and couldn't help but recall some of the rules that Greene wrote about, when I saw your post here....
ReplyDeletehttp://www2.tech.purdue.edu/cg/courses/cgt411/covey/48_laws_of_power.htm (Law 2)